How to Boost Your Emotional Intelligence

by on October 24th, 2017

One’s intelligence quotient (IQ) was socially regarded as the most prominent predictor of competence, efficiency, and success in an individual’s personal, professional, and social lives. In the 1990’s, however, emotional intelligence quickly emerged as a paradigm altering term used widely in both scholarly and professional discourse.

According to a Harvard Business Journal article by John D. Mayer, who was credited for defining the notion of emotional intelligence, “emotional intelligence is the ability to accurately perceive your own and others’ emotions; to understand the signals that emotions send about relationships; and to manage your own and others’ emotions.”

Likewise, Rutgers psychologist Daniel Goleman decisively claimed, “The most effective leaders are all alike in one crucial way: they all have a high degree of what has come to be known as emotional intelligence. It’s not that IQ and technical skills are irrelevant. They do matter, but … they are the entry-level requirements for executive positions. My research, along with other recent studies, clearly shows that emotional intelligence is the sine qua non of leadership. Without it, a person can have the best training in the world, an incisive, analytical mind, and an endless supply of smart ideas, but he still won’t make a great leader.”

In fact, according to Dr. Travis Bradberry, author of Emotional Intelligence, TalentSmart tested emotional intelligence alongside 33 other important workplace skills, and found that emotional intelligence is the strongest predictor of performance, explaining a full 58% of success in all types of jobs.

This might all sound good and dandy, but I’m sure you’re wondering how exactly the fluid counterpoint of IQ that is Emotional Intelligence might be enhanced to boost your own efficiency and competence on a daily basis.  I have personally adapted a few tips from which I have incorporated into my life to enhance my Emotional Intelligence:

Take Ownership of Your Emotions and Conduct

This correlates with the first pillar of emotional intelligence: self awareness. Attributing your own emotional state and behavior as a consequence of your own reactions as opposed to attributing them to external sources enhances your ability to effectively cope with all unforeseen hurdles with emotional intelligence and grace.

Actively Empathize with Those Around You

Empathy emerges as a second and crucial pillar of emotional intelligence which enables you to more affectionately gauge others’ situations, solidify relationships and thwart potential conflicts.

Prioritize Responding Rather than Reacting

A third and crucial pillar of emotional intelligence remains self regulation, which remains crucial to conflict prevention, conflict resolution, and optimizing relationships with colleagues, classmates and even loved ones.

Channel Your Inner Drive For Excellence

Motivation remains so integral for succeeding in every avenue of life. In order to realistically boost your inclination for maintaining motivation on a more consistent basis, practicing delayed gratification in microcosmic situations will enable you to cultivate the discipline requisite for maintaining motivation amid more challenging and macrocosmic scenarios.

Cultivate a Positive Atmosphere

Happiness and social skills arise as the two last, and arguably most fundamental pillars of emotional intelligence. Practicing humility, genuinely possessing interest for the wellbeing of those around you, and resisting the urge to harbor bouts of negativity in your life remain instrumental steps for fostering the emotional intelligence requisite for thriving in all avenues of life.


Hafsah Lakhany will graduate in 2019 from the University of California at Irvine with a major in business administration. After college, Hafsah plans on going into consulting, health care management, and career development coaching/consulting.

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